#11 inspiring views, reads & listens for the holidays.

Happy holiday season and if you’re down under hello summer! I’ve pulled together a holiday reading, viewing and listening list for when you’re relaxing poolside, on a lonnnng roadie or needing some inspirational viewing after eating far too much & need to get yourself up off that couch.

powerofhabit#1 Read: The Power Of Habit. My current read. Fascinating. Find out how the habit of brushing our teeth was formed and why fruit and vege are at the start of the supermarket.
#2 Listen: The Wake Up Project- Jono Fisher has several enlightening conversations with high profile Australian men about masculinity on 2015 and what it means to them. Nigel Marsh and Cameron Clyne were two of my favourites.

#3 View: The Skill of Self Confidence by Dr Ivan Joseph a varsity soccer coach who claims repetition, repetition, repetition is one key to building your confidence.

 

 

#girlboss#4 Read: #girlboss by Sophia Amoruso. A gritty millennial version of Lean In according to reviews. Santa is bringing me this one.

 

 

 

#5 Listen: – Ted Talk Radio on disruptive leadership features Sheryl Sandberg & Drew Dudley (the lollipop guy).

#6 View: 8 Ted Talks curated by Bono – there’s bound to be one in here to get you inspired for 2016. Ken Robinson’s talk about school killing creativity is thought provoking.

Bigmagic#7 Read: Inspired after watching her interview with Marie Forleo recently the book Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert is on my summer reading list to gain insights into not being afraid to explore my creative side – stop worrying about what people think!

 

#8 Video: The fringe benefits of failure by JK Rowling. I can’t believe I haven’t seen this before. Inspiring.

#9 Podcast: The James Altucher Show interviews Mick Ebeling renowned entrepreneur solving big world problems – also check out Mick’s his book “Not impossible the art and joy of doing what couldn’t be done”. When does this guy have time to sleep?

#10 Video: In Oprah’s Harvard Commencement Speech 2013 she quotes one of my favourite sayings “this too shall pass”. Oprah suggests we build a resume about who you want to be and asks what is your story that will get you out of your low state. If you love O, you’ll love this.

the-power-of-intention#11 Read: The Power of Intention by Wayne Dyer. Definitely for those very much into personal development literature. I’ll be reading this to expand my horizons around his philosophy of “You don’t attract what you want. You attract what you are”.

 

I’d love to hear what you’re reading, viewing or listening to over the holidays – let me know what has rocked your world this year. Thank you to everyone who made suggestions for my summer list. Happy holidays!

A short & sweet lesson in Being.

How often to do you find yourself rationalising with a friend  “Well once I have my fancy new kickers,  tropical break in Bali, sleek road bike, renovated villa or complete makeover then I’ll be cooler, relaxed, faster, more settled or hotter and then I’ll definitely be happy”. No matter what it is – a little or large purchase , a relationship, a new job, weight-loss or a move to a new city we cleverly convince ourselves this ‘thing’ will bring us that one step closer to being happy, fulfilled and completely 100% satisfied.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I L.O.V.E to shop. I know a change of scenery brings feelings of a fresh start and going from single to loved up is undoubtedly brilliant but there’s a lesson here which has been around for a while and always worth a refresher.

No matter where you go, there you areWhen you focus on the having instead of the being you are less satisfied and fulfilled long term.  You are also hugely attached to that exact want providing a feeling that you crave but once it stops giving you the feeling you look for a new shiny thing to fulfill youAnd as someone who has lived in 7 cities I can vouch for that fact that no matter where I go, there I am. I take the same stuff with me in a wee magical back pack and somehow it follows me everywhere I go!

So what to do? Turn it on its head. Instead of focusing on Have. Do. Be we consider the Be. Do. Have.

Focus on how you are being. Yes, you want to have a smaller bootie, a slick set of wheels or an apartment better than anything on The Block but how about looking at WHO you want to be first and then think about what you might be doing and having as a result of this change of focus.

If you have a job interview for example rather being attached to your shiney new job and all the great things it will give you why not focus on who you are being in that interview. Are you being eloquent, intelligent, analytical or smart and savvy – by focusing on who you are being you will be demonstrating how you will act in your potential job and then bring yourself closer to having more long term satisfaction. Similar to my moving of cities I often believed a new job would bring fulfillment but after the glitter and tassles wear off those same feelings of ho hum soon crept in because I had been so focused on what the job would give me rather than who I would be.

I read this great quote from renowned designer Diane Von Furstenburg yesterday in the April edition of #Next magazine  “I tell my grandchildren before they go to sleep at night, think of the person you want to be, and start having fun being that person. Because that is the person you’ll become”.

So who are you going to dream of being tonight? And how will that play out tomorrow?  We are human beings after all.